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June 16, 2008
By: Trina
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Over the last two decades, I’ve heard some interesting, ridiculous, strange and some sincere reasons for staying married and for getting divorced. I’ve met folks who stay married because of the kids. I’ve met folks who don’t get married because they would loose too much financially.
I’ve known single folks who really wanted to be married. They have had a strong desire for a companion which they had hoped they would find in marriage. I’ve also known single folks who were content and happy with their single lifestyle.
I’ve known married folks who really hated being married. They wish they didn’t have someone to go home to and someone to “report in” to each day. I’ve met parents who really hate being parents. They miss their days of “freedom”.
I’m thankful to love my husband. I’m thankful we are good to each other, care about each other and are supportive of each other. I’m grateful we appreciate each other, are kind to each other and truly want what is best for our marriage and life together. I’m thankful we’ve grown closer, grown together, changed and still embraced each other and we look forward to continuing to grow older together along with the changes it will bring.
I believe God has done something incredible and special in our marriage despite the fact that we do not have children in our home right now. I believe marriage CAN be a wonderful experience. I know it is worth the investment.
In a recent conversation, a young woman told me she had tried everything, even therapy and after only four months of marriage has filed for divorce. It’s a long story and there’s a lot to it. One party was not ready for marriage, one party has a really mixed up view of love, and one party has also watched too many soap operas, romantic movies and read too many romance novels. Both are selfish and do not have a balance of priorities. I have no idea if their marriage could ever make it if given a chance, but FOUR months?
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June 16, 2008
By: Patrick
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I have a pet peeve. Well, likely a good many but one which comes to mind right now because it’s related to my various fields of interest.
I’ve attended a fair number of churches in my time, either for a visit or, significantly more rarely, a longer stay. I’ve now made churches my profession of sorts, though not being paid by a church does mitigate that reality I suppose. I’ve also helped out in other creative projects and participated in arenas in which the mediocre thrived (my high school) and the amazing become more so (my college). I’ve seen a curious thing over the years which surprises me. The great things that happen are often because the people involved are doing something for themselves, that is they are making something, or building something, or leading something which they enjoy for its own sake. They would go to it even if they didn’t lead.
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May 28, 2008
By: Patrick
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One of the things I am turning over in my head is the motivation behind sin. Talk to some people and they will bring out a well-worn harangue about calling sin a sin, and making sure folks know exactly what sins are being committed. These sorts of people are concerned that God will present them with a list of other people’s sins that weren’t properly admonished, thus losing pool privileges for a 32nd part of eternity. Or maybe such people like to be right, and want others to know that they are right, a fact that becomes even more potent when those others are wrong. It’s nice to be right when someone else is wrong, so nice that a person might feel compelled to seek out those situations if none are immediately presented. Or, more kindly, folks like to point out sins because they genuinely care for others.
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May 26, 2008
By: Cathi-Lyn Dyck, Managing Editor
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Marty wrote something profound last weekend. (Yeah, dude, you now have me on record saying that. :~)
He wrote, “If a person is forfeiting their humanity to appease someone else, then there is no way a person can actually enjoy that. It has to break down the body and mind at some point.”
Forfeiting your humanity to appease someone. Those are exactly the right words to describe it. And I believe that in those situations, we are ultimately forfeiting our humanity to the devil. Much as that sounds like wacko-talk, I came to believe in the reality of evil forces years before I believed in a God.
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May 22, 2008
By: Trina
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I spent one decade submerged into a subculture which I didn’t even realize existed at the time. As I found myself escaping the subculture, I realized I was living life only in the “Christian subculture“. Now, after spending a decade on the outside of the “Christian subculture“, I don’t consider myself bitter about the “Christian subculture” but alarmed about it!
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