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June 16, 2008
By: Trina
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Over the last two decades, I’ve heard some interesting, ridiculous, strange and some sincere reasons for staying married and for getting divorced. I’ve met folks who stay married because of the kids. I’ve met folks who don’t get married because they would loose too much financially.
I’ve known single folks who really wanted to be married. They have had a strong desire for a companion which they had hoped they would find in marriage. I’ve also known single folks who were content and happy with their single lifestyle.
I’ve known married folks who really hated being married. They wish they didn’t have someone to go home to and someone to “report in” to each day. I’ve met parents who really hate being parents. They miss their days of “freedom”.
I’m thankful to love my husband. I’m thankful we are good to each other, care about each other and are supportive of each other. I’m grateful we appreciate each other, are kind to each other and truly want what is best for our marriage and life together. I’m thankful we’ve grown closer, grown together, changed and still embraced each other and we look forward to continuing to grow older together along with the changes it will bring.
I believe God has done something incredible and special in our marriage despite the fact that we do not have children in our home right now. I believe marriage CAN be a wonderful experience. I know it is worth the investment.
In a recent conversation, a young woman told me she had tried everything, even therapy and after only four months of marriage has filed for divorce. It’s a long story and there’s a lot to it. One party was not ready for marriage, one party has a really mixed up view of love, and one party has also watched too many soap operas, romantic movies and read too many romance novels. Both are selfish and do not have a balance of priorities. I have no idea if their marriage could ever make it if given a chance, but FOUR months?
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April 22, 2008
By: Trina
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By Trina Daniels
Married and looking was an appalling choice which was available as I signed up for a new networking account. Thankfully, there was a choice of married. I’m married. I’m happy. I am not looking. I think there should be a category Married and Happy, Married and Loving It or at least Married and Not Looking if the category Married and Looking is going to be offered.
I am glad to see more and more people, churches, organizations and even places on the web encouraging a healthy and happy marriage. All too often, we find ourselves living in a culture that is hostile toward marriage being a lifetime commitment between a man and a woman. We celebrate weddings and divorces almost equally. We hear about “good divorces” or even read in a marriage announcement “NOW he has the right woman” with a scripture reference.
I think marriage is a divine gift and the natural state of mankind. The first thing in creation that was not good was man’s aloneness. (Genesis 2:18, Genesis 21-25 The Message)
It’s not easy. We do not have a set of rules or comprehensive instructions. There’s not a manual to cover every situation we encounter. There’s not a way for my husband and I to be happy with each other at every moment. Our culture and our entertainment media teaches us that marriage is boring, bitter and we’re trapped. I’m tired of watching the marriages of my friends, family and acquaintances fall apart, while the latest hobby is finding unique and humorous ways to complain about our spouses.
I believe marriage is an enterprise worthy of pursuit and worthy of great investment. I will celebrate my marriage, share my joy with others and communicate things I’ve learned about being married. I hope to provide an opportunity for discussion for those who love marriage, value marriage, want to love marriage or want to be Married and Loving It! My favorite quote about marriage is by Martin Luther: “Let the wife make the husband glad to come home and let the husband make the wife sorry to see him leave” - and I’m not even Lutheran!
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July 21, 2007
By: Marty
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I have been out of the loop for the last little while but I just heard that Tammy Faye Bakker passed away after her long battle with cancer.
Tammy: Telling It My Way
Think what you may about Bakker, cancer is a horrible disease and nobody deserves to suffer through such pain. I’ve seen it too many times, some of the people I love beating it, others being toyed with by it and others just being crushed by it.
After the PTL scandal and the Jessica Hahn affair, Tammy Faye and Jim Bakker divorced.
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